My Son’s First Cell Phone And The Power of Friendship

by Valerie, Mom Knows It All

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the power of friendship - boys at the playground

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I’d like to tell you a story about the power of friendship. The photo above is of my youngest son and his best friend D. They have what I can only describe as one of the greatest bromances that ever was. I love watching them together. No matter where they are you can count on them having a great time. They see each other almost every weekday as they go to school together. On the weekend they bowl together. Any time they are not at one of those places, there’s an excellent chance that you’ll find them on the phone together, either talking, facetiming or texting. Their conversations make my heart smile.

My youngest is 18 and he just got his cell phone over the summer for his birthday. He’s on the phone so often with his friend that his phone is almost never fully charged. I can’t imagine him not being able to talk to his friend. It brings him such joy. Yet truthfully, I resisted getting him a phone for a while, and wasn’t sure I wanted to for his birthday. In fact, if not for the power of friendship, he still might not have that phone.

the power of friendship - karen at playground

The friendship of which I speak is my friendship with D’s mom, an amazing woman named Karen. As you may have guessed from the photo above, she can be a really fun person to be around. Being a fun person is just a fraction of why I am so glad she is my friend. Karen is super easy to talk to. She is open-minded and never judgmental. There have been a couple of occasions where I had thigs bothering me to the point I felt I couldn’t talk to anyone about them, for fear they couldn’t relate or that they’d judge. She proved me wrong. She offers me constructive criticism, never in a mean or hurtful way. And she will call me out and tell me when I could do something better.

One example of this, and the biggest example there is, is the story of how my youngest son got his own cell phone. As my youngest has Down syndrome, his communication is delayed. His speech is often hard to understand for many, unless you know him well. D has had a cell phone for a good two years or so now. Once, before my son got his own phone, D called me to tell me my son was upset. The care, concern and compassion that he had for my son touched my heart. After receiving that call I mentioned to Karen how impressed I was with D’s phone skills. She told me that after getting D a cell phone of his own, his verbal communication improved. She urged me to consider getting my son a phone as well. I entertained the idea for about 5 minutes and then was done with it until almost a year later.

When I started contemplating what to give my son for his birthday, the idea of a cell phone came back up during conversation with Karen. I was super skeptical. I was beyond skeptical, I was sure it would be a waste of money. I went round and around in my own head for a couple of weeks. Then after another conversation on the topic with Karen, I decided to give it a shot. On his eighteenth birthday my son got his own phone. We started off slowly, with me being the only contact in his phone. I kept it that way for about two weeks. Then I added my older son and my husband. Then I added D.

cj on phone

In the beginning conversations between the two were quite limited. Then I watched as my son really tried to use words more. He would listen to D and try and repeat things. D would ask questions and my son would try and answer. The use the phone and they Facetime. Watching the two of them together absolutely makes my heart smile. They are on the phone all of the time. My son’s verbal skills are slowly improving. His joy at having a phone to talk to his friend tops it all. Had I not listened to Karen’s suggestion about getting the phone I wouldn’t get to experience my son’s joy every day. I was reluctant to get the phone for my son at first, but through the power of friendship I finally overcame my reluctance and went ahead. It’s been one of the best things ever for him and I am grateful.

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pat.navymom November 2, 2017 - 7:29 am

Technology certainly can help communication.

Alli Smith November 2, 2017 - 7:52 am

I love the photo of your son and his friend! The power of friendship is amazing. Everyone needs that one friend to have fun with, confide in and laugh together.

As parents, it’s always difficult to know when the time is right for that first phone. I think you made a wise decision and I can tell your son loves his new phone.

candy November 2, 2017 - 8:15 am

Wonderful your son has found such a great friend, we all need at least one friend like that. Sounds like you have found a friend just like your son who you can talk with. Glad his communication skills have improved and he is enjoying his phone.

Amber Myers November 2, 2017 - 8:23 am

I just love this! I’m glad your son is enjoying his phone. My son is 15 and has autism and I’ll probably be getting him his own phone soon. He doesn’t talk to a lot of people though, but mostly for peace of mind.

Tim B November 2, 2017 - 9:20 am

I don’t remember the last time I ate cottage cheese. That is a shame because I love the stuff! Glad the cell phone is working out with your son. Seems like he has himself a good friend there.

Roch November 2, 2017 - 9:54 am

I think parents can offer phones to their children even at young ages with guidance. Phone is such a necessity and it does wonders to our lives.

Jeanette November 2, 2017 - 10:11 am

My kiddo is still a little young for one but I will be getting one for him in the next couple of years. There are a lot of things I worry about them getting one but security nowadays so much better so that makes me feel good.

Tomi C November 2, 2017 - 11:33 am

My middle kid had a severe speech deficit growing up. His speech was so delayed he often refrained from talking to avoid having to repeat himself over and over. A couple of years ago, I bought him a cell phone and it really helped. He speaks with confidence and he’s very chatty with his friends. The power of technology is amazing.

Sarah Bailey November 2, 2017 - 5:21 pm

Aww it looks like they have such a special friendship and it is great he is able to chat to his friend whenever he wants, friendship is such an important part of life.

Lisa November 2, 2017 - 5:38 pm

Everyone should have a friendship like your son’s and D’s. What a great story and I’m glad you have found positives in him having a cell phone.

Claudia Krusch November 2, 2017 - 6:53 pm

It sounds like your Son has a great friendship with D. He must have been so thrilled to get his own phone. It is so important to have at least one good friend that can relate to your situation.

Liz Mays November 2, 2017 - 7:24 pm

It’s so awesome that just being able to chat over the phone more often helped your son’s communication skills. It sounds like he has a great friendship with D.

Pam November 2, 2017 - 7:44 pm

This is such a sweet story. I’m so glad that your sn has a wonderful friend like D, and that you have Karen.

Amanda November 2, 2017 - 8:27 pm

In this day and age, I am surprised to learn that your son got his first phone at 18. I applaud your will power and can see that he is thrilled with his new phone!

sara lafountain November 2, 2017 - 8:45 pm

Your son looks so happy with his cell phone. Kids need to be able to communicate with their friends, and phones are a great way to do that! Thank you for sharing this story with us.

Chubskulit Rose November 3, 2017 - 6:33 am

It’s awesome when you can find the one true friend that you can relate and tell stories of just about anything. I have been living here in the US for 12 years and I only hAve one that I can say a true friend.

Angie November 3, 2017 - 10:32 am

Awww, this is soooo sweet. It’s great he has such a great friend, and a great mom that helps him keep in touch. Loving this.

Nikki November 3, 2017 - 12:28 pm

That is such a touching story! I love that it’s really about two powerful friendships: your son and D, and you & Karen. She sounds like the perfect friend to have!

adriana November 3, 2017 - 2:12 pm

That is SO great! It looks like he is loving his phone too. That video was incredible to watch!

Amy Smith November 3, 2017 - 11:40 pm

What an amazing story. Friendships are the best. They really do bring out the very best in you. I am thankful that you and your son have found such great friends!


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